Sounds silly, but there are some items of clothing I've had for so long
I simply can't part with them easily. For example, I found myself putting
in the giveaway pile a thick tan turtleneck sweater which is so old it
actually has a "tag" on the back (those who were young in the
'80s know what I'm talking about).
Why, even
when this sweater is hanging off me, did I find it so difficult to place
it in the bag? Is it because I have such fond memories of wearing that
sweater? Well, truth be known, there were plenty of unpleasant ones, too.
Is it because,
only a year after exclaiming joyfully that I could fit into that sweater
again, it's now too big? Perhaps.
Is it because
it's a really warm, comfortable sweater and I love wearing it? Likely.
And back
when I used to wear it most frequently, the truth is I wore all my clothes
a lot looser, so I never even noticed.
Then there
are clothes which are newer but still difficult to part with. For example,
all the clothes The Gryphon bought me for my birthday last year, even
though we'd only been dating a short while at that point.
The black
pants and the caramel-colored jeans are both clearly getting baggy. The
white fitted blouse, well, it isn't fitted anymore. The black sleeveless,
embroidered shirt, I can wear that a little longer, though it's getting
loose around the armholes. The only item that still fits are the stretchy
jeans, which apparently continue to mold to your body even as you lose
weight. But even these are getting a bit loose.
Now, I realize
this is the sort of problem that ranks up there with "Too many cute
guys are interested in me" or "I'm so rich/famous/powerful;
life is sooooo hard!" Still, it's a reality of my experience today,
and it's the result of nearly four years of hard work, so I don't feel
too guilty talking about it.
It's a problem
I'm likely to face for at least another year, by which time I expect to
make my goal weight.
In the meantime,
I'm faced with not just the prospect of saying good-bye to old clothing
favorites but also facing, to some degree, the whole self-image bogeyman.
There's probably a better word here, but I'm pressed for time.
I mean,
when I try on an old sweater and find out it's too big, how does that
skew my perception of who I was and how I looked when I
originally wore it? Maybe I was wrong, all these years, to look back,
longingly, at old photos thinking, "I wish I could look like that
again."
The truth
is, if I'm honest with myself, the times in my life when I looked best
were not necessarily related to weight loss or weight gain. They were
almost entirely related to my attitude at the time.
I look back
at this photo of myself in the tan sweater, and despite the fact that
my hair is well, awry is the kindest word and my face is
a little fuller than it had been when I graduated from high school a couple
years previously, I think I looked good. The reason, I believe, is because
I exuded a sort of confidence, giving that snarky, "Yeah, so what?"
look to the camera.
So maybe
that's why I like so many photos of myself lately, and maybe that's why
I've been feeling so good about myself. It's an attitude adjustment, pure
and simple. And when the mind is healthy, the body will follow.
That said,
I think I might spare the tan sweater just a little longer. I mean, I
can always wear it around the house, right?
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