Musings
By Alyce Wilson |
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April 24, 2003- Letter # 3 | |
Going through old papers, I came across a birthday card from my Grandma Wilson. She wrote it on Sept. 5, 1991. I know this because she compulsively dated all correspondence, including birthday cards she would simply sign. She also dated and labeled the backs of all photos, I habit I would be wise to emulate. At first glance it was just a big, oversized, flowery card like Grandma usually sent. But inside there were not just one but two letters, labeled "Letter #1" and "Letter 2."
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"Letter # 1" was presumably the first letter written, and it was fairly casual:
She included a clipping from a magazine, showing the video and giving a brief description. I'd done a three-hour radio special that year about "Robin Hood in Myth and Movies," based on a suggestion from her, so I guess she thought I'd be interested. Grandma Wilson loved clipping out articles and sending them to people she thought would be interested. My father still hasn't gone through her boxes of papers, including many such clipped articles and personal memorabalia. Maybe this is why he's always telling me I take after my grandmother... But apparently, before she'd sealed the envelope and before the postman arrived, my grandmother had second thoughts. It seems she'd reread a letter I'd sent her, and thoughts were swirling around in her head, bothering her, so she decided to write me what she really thought.
I wish I could remember exactly how I responded to this letter from Grandma. I'm fairly certain that I either wrote or called her immediately to reassure her that everything was fine. This entire letter was sparked by one careless sentence I wrote in an unguarded moment. The truth is, I was having a bad year, and I'd been experiencing depression. Grandma saw the signs but misinterpreted the cause. I remember thinking, "This is why I never tell Grandma anything." From then on, she only ever heard about the highlights, the good times, the prizes and accomplishments. I was afraid to let my guard slip, because I didn't want to worry her, I suppose. I wonder what would have happened if I'd have responded differently. I wonder what Grandma would have done if I'd confessed to her that I felt trapped in a relationship with a controlling jerk who was sucking all the joy out of my life? What would she have done if I'd admitted I was depressed, and that I'd never stopped grieving for a cousin who'd died nearly a year ago? Would she have been flustered, or panicked, as I feared? Or would she have reached out to me, then, too? Would she have counseled me to leave that pitiful jerk who didn't deserve a great girl like me? Would she have sympathized with me, held my hand, understood? From this letter, it seems almost certain she would. I think I was afraid of disappointing her, more than anything. I was afraid that if she knew her perfect granddaughter had flaws, that she would see me differently. She was always so proud of me; I didn't want that to change. Sometime before the postman came, Grandma decided to write her true feelings to me. And now, 12 years after the letter arrived and years after her death, I'm ready to reply. Grandma, if you're out there listening, boy, have I got some things to tell you...
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Moral:
Listen to your Grandma, kiddo. Copyright
2003 by Alyce Wilson |
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